Domestic Violence Series: Special Edition–Resources for You

In closing this series, I want to provide some resources for you!   National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) www.dvasc.org   Domestic Violence Assistance www.ndvh.org   National Domestic Violence Website www.health-first.org   List signs of abusive relationship http://www.thehotline.org/ www.bwjp.org   Battered Women’s Justice Project www.endabuse.org   National Health Center on Domestic Violence www.ncjfcj.org/dept/fvd   Resource Center on Domestic Violence, Child Protection and Custody   In South […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–Moving on and Starting Over

    If you’ve survived a domestic violence situation, I congratulate you!  Living through one and moving on is not easy!  However, it can be done! Moving on takes time. Move at a pace you’re comfortable with. Surround yourself with friends and family you know you can trust. Allow yourself the chance to grieve and mourn the loss of your […]

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Domestic Violence Series: Special Edition–20 Lessons Learned from Domestic Violence

  I cannot make someone else love me I’m only as worthy as I allow myself to be I am not alone There is hope God wants so much more for me Getting out and moving on will not be easy Trust can be destroyed in seconds People’s actions speak louder than their words It is much easier to react […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–7 Ways a Domestic Violent Marriage Can be Restored

Everyone hopes and wishes that their relationship could be salvaged at some point.  By the time separation comes this may not be as big of an issue. So can a domestic violent relationship be restored?  I believe they can at certain times.   When the abuser acknowledges they have a problem  When true repentance is made  When the abuser {and person […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–Formulating a Plan for the Future

Once I left my abusive relationship, I was at a loss.  Now what? The first two months, I was too numb to think or move.  However, with gentle pushes from family, I slowly returned to society. I’m not saying that healing will come this quickly.  Often it takes years to find healing.  I’m talking about just existing. However, we must […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–5 Ways to Find Healing Upon Leaving a Domestic Violence Situation

Leaving a domestic violent situation is not easy or for the faint of heart. Not only is there the loss of a marriage, but the emotional and physical pain that has to be dealt with. After my first marriage ended, I buried the pain and tried to move on.  The only thing this did was make me angry. After the […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–7 Opportunities for Escalated Anger in Domestic Violence

When a woman leaves a violent relationship is one of the most dangerous times for a woman.  Often the man is angry and will not give up until he either has his wife back or has retaliated.   Some thoughts to be aware of: Men will say or do anything necessary in order to convince you to return.  This may […]

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7 Steps in a Plan of Action to Leave Domestic Violence

I’ve been discussing safety precautions and a plan of action in leaving an abusive situation. A few other thoughts in preparing and leaving are: Pack suitcase in advance with clothes and toiletries. Have an extra set of keys made Evidence of physical abuse—take these with you, whether it is pictures, written records, police reports, etc. Pack a special toy for […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–3 Safety Precautions in leaving Domestic Violence Situation

Leaving an abusive situation is dangerous.  Often the abusive partner becomes enraged and the abuse is even more dangerous and at an all-time high. When leaving, take every precaution necessary. This includes: Leave when the abusive partner is not at home—if possible Set up a signal with a trusted neighbor or friend If spouse will be home—contact the police and […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–7 Benefits of Abuse Shelters

Abuse shelters are there to help women and children escaping an abusive relationship.  Unfortunately, many work on minuscule budgets and staff.  The shelters want to do more but are unable to due to financial concerns and lack of staff. However, shelters offer many wonderful resources.  These include:   Privacy—privacy is of the utmost urgency. A safe place– abuse shelters do […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–Why Counseling and Communication Can Make a Difference

      I’ve been discussing plans on leaving and financial tips to leave a domestic violence situation.  Today, I want to discuss staying in a relationship. I know…you’re shaking your head and wondering why. I’ll tell you…although I don’t believe anyone should live in an abusive situation, I also believe that marriage is sacred and a gift of God.  […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–10 Steps to Planning to Leave a Domestic Violence Situation

Planning to leave an abusive relationship can be very scary.  There are so many questions and so much fear playing on already frayed emotions. So how can you safely prepare to leave? Pray and ask God for wisdom–God helped me out of my situation in a way that only He could accomplish Financial planning—beginning putting small amounts of money aside […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–5 Steps to Financial Planning in leaving a Domestic Violence Situation

One important factor that prevents women from leaving a domestic violent situation is finances.  They have no way to provide for themselves and their children and feel they have no option other than to stay.   If possible, begin financially planning your escape as far in advance as possible.  I realize this isn’t always possible, but there are a few […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–7 Things To Do When Someone You Loved Is Abused

          Watching a child, sibling, parent or friend that you love being abused is one of the most difficult thing.  More than anything you want to protect them and even shake some sense into them.  You know there is so much better for this person. So what do you do? Pray—more than anything this person needs […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–Pros and Cons of Engaging the Authorities

Around the end of my abusive relationship, I worked with off duty police officers who worked security at my job.  I was able to discuss my situation with them. Their advice was very helpful, but I also realized there were consequences once the police left. If you are having a domestic squabble, calling the police can create a record of […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series— What the Bible Says About Domestic Violence

Last week, I shared my struggle with my beliefs and leaving a domestic violence situation. But, what does the Bible say about abuse? “Remember those in prison, as if you were their fellow prisoners, and those who are mistreated as if you yourselves were suffering.”    Hebrews 13:3 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his […]

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Why I Asked God for Help Out of My Abusive Situation

One of the reasons I stayed in a domestic violence relationship for so long was because of my religious beliefs. I really struggled with leaving a marriage and obtaining a divorce due to my beliefs.  I believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment that should not be taken likely. However, I tried counseling, open communication, and the numerous other techniques […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series— 3 Places to Find Safety from Domestic Violence

Last week we discussed why women returned to an abusive situation. One important factor of leaving an abuser, is having a safe place to turn. Some places to turn are: Family members—is there a family member you can stay with?  Is there a family member that livesout of town or out o f state that you could stay with? Friends […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series— 9 Reasons A Woman Returns to An Abusive Situation

I lost count over the years of how many times I left my husband.  I know there were two serious attempts, in which I actively sought refuge elsewhere. There were numerous accounts of when I stormed out and swore I was never returning.  However with nowhere else to go and no money, I had no choice but to return. Statistics […]

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Topic Monday: Domestic Violence Series–10 Ways Domestic Violence Affects the Workplace

Often a person believes that no one knows they are a victim of domestic abuse.  I felt that way.  I believed that it was our secret and didn’t move outside of the home. I was terribly wrong in this belief.  Domestic violence spills over into every part of our lives, including the workplace. Some ways that domestic violence spills over […]

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