Often we think of abusers are the men in the relationship. While men are the dominate abuser, there are cases of men that are abused. I’ve discussed my own abusive relationship, but what I’ve not…
Recently there was a story in the news about a woman that died from the abuse she suffered under her son’s care. Reports stated that she was imbedded into the couch and had maggots eating…
The ASPCA reports that “one of the four most significant indicators of who is at greatest risk of becoming a domestic batterer. “ Children that have been abused, often begin to abuse by taking…
We’ve been primarily talking about domestic violence, but this month I want to shine a light on three other types of abuse and the fourth week, we’re going to look at a different slant on…
We’ve discussed why women stay, but what are some of the barriers the abuser may put in place to prevent the victim from leaving? I can tell you that the average woman leaves seven times…
Abusive relationships usually escalate from single incidents to multiple incidents more often. Often a woman will think she is safe, but when she stands up for herself or tries to leave, she may discover…
Last week we discussed coping mechanisms victims used in an abusive relationship. Along those same lines, victims often find ways to protect themselves or their children from an outburst of violence. Some of these are:…
During my abusive relationship, I withdrew into myself for a long time. Although others tried to warn me of what was happening, I refused to see or acknowledge the hell I was living in. Some…
Duncan* often knew how to push my buttons and which buttons to push in order to anger me. Often an abuser wants to insight anger to bring on another cycle of…
One of the questions I was often asked when I left Duncan* was, why did you stay? Finding the words to explain this is difficult. A person that has never been…
Often abusive behavior is learned. Perhaps the abuser grew up in a home and saw his mother being abused. He copied his father and may have even been abused. If the abuser is a woman,…
Often people have misconceptions about domestic violence. Sometimes they think that women enjoy being beat, the woman is crazy or that those without money or education are the most battered. All of these are very…
After suffering from a back injury, I’d not endured enough pain. I met a man who I thought was Mr. Right. All too soon, I discovered how wrong I was and before I knew it…
Last week, we discussed signs of abuse on which to be on the lookout. However, what does an abuser look like? Unfortunately, s/he does not go around wearing a shirt that says “I’m abusive,” so…
Do you have a loved one that you believe might be in an abusive relationship? Are you unsure of what to look for? Today, I want to discuss some of the signs of abuse. Before…
We’ve been discussing domestic violence and one important factor of an abusive relationship is the cycle of violence. This cycle happens hundreds of times in an abusive relationship. At first the cycle may happen very…
Often when we hear domestic violence, we think of physical violence such as hitting, pushing, shoving, punching, kicking or grabbing. However, there are many other types of violence that falls under the heading of domestic…
Domestic abuse is a deadly epidemic. Not a week goes by that the news is not filled with a story about a woman {and occasionally even a man} that was murdered by her spouse. Often…