Praying for Our Enemies
I previously shared why we should forgive those that hurt us. But God calls us to go even a step farther and pray for our enemies. Again, this is easier said than done. I have…
When We Blame Others
Recently I had a conversation with a loved one. A former boyfriend had recently died due to a short illness. We began to discuss the decisions this individual made and that she was better off…
Lessons When Faced with the Past
Recently, I attended a conference and was confronted with my past. No, this was not one of my abusers, however it was a reminder of a difficult and unhappy time in my life. Yet, in…
When We Should Keep Secrets
I grew up where we speak only truth. If we told a lie, we were reprimanded and told how important it was to tell the truth. This is still a life lesson I strive to…
The Weak Break the Strong
I recently heard the phrase the weak break the strong and realized just how true the statement is. While often the abuser appears to be the one that is strong, that person is the one…
When You Are Angry At God
Last week, we discussed being alone and I shared to turn to God during that time. However, what happens when you are angry at God? If you’ve never been angry at God then bless you.…
When You Feel All Alone
There have been many times when I have felt all alone. During this time depression set in and I could not seem to shake it. This was greatest when I was in my abusive relationship,…
When you are cut off from all you know
While I was in my abusive relationship, I was cut off from my family and friends. This happened so slowly, that I did not even realize what was happening at first. So, how is a…
Forgiving Those Who Hurt Us
I had my heart broken and had been betrayed and I was angry. However, I had a choice. I could stay angry or I could learn to forgive. I chose to forgive. I forgave for…
9 Ways to Make It On Our Own
I often wondered how I would make it on my own, especially after I left that difficult situation. I was blessed in that I had a family to lean on and live with for…
3 Strategies To Move On From Abuser
Last week, I shared 9 strategies when you want to return to the chaos. But, in addition to longing for the old, unhealthy patterns you may discover that you can’t stop thinking about the man…
9 Strategies When You Want to Return to the Chaos
If you’ve recently left a difficult situation or relationship, do you find yourself longing to return to the chaos? I know, that sounds like a silly question. However, the situation had become so engrained in…
20 Ways to Protect Yourself
I shared last week, about developing a plan to leave a bad situation or relationship, but there are steps that need to be take in which to protect oneself. Some of the things I learned…
Preparing to Leave
The time finally arrived when I said enough is enough and I began to prepare a plan to leave. I’ll admit this was a difficult decision and I second and third guessed myself time and…
Following My Beliefs
I was raised in a traditional, Christian family where marriage was meant for life. The idea of being the first in my immediate family to divorce was a hard pill for me to swallow. After…
Seeing Through the Lies
From the moment I met my husband, he told me lies. When I realized this many years later, I was angry. I was angry at him for lying to me,…
When You Never Do Right
King David took Bathsheba as his own and when she became pregnant he had to find a quick fix. He called her husband, Uriah the Hittite, in from the battle…
True Love is Unselfish
Recently, I watched Beauty and the Beast and was reminded of the strong message in the story. The story is one of unselfish love. The prince is so self-centered he…
Believing the Fairy Tale
Growing up we read and watch multiple fairy tales that until recently always ended with “and they lived happily ever after”. I don’t know about you, but I bought into…