When We Should Keep Secrets

I grew up where we speak only truth.  If we told a lie, we were reprimanded and told how important it was to tell the truth.  This is still a life lesson I strive to live by.

However, when I was in the abusive relationship, I was often accused of lying, even when I wasn’t.

some secrets have a ripple affect

There were times when I was truthful to the point it was harmful to my own being.

So, should we keep secrets from others?

I believe we should be truthful at all cost.

However, I’ve discovered that often when we are not asked specifically about something it is best to not provide too much information on that subject.

As the old saying goes, “the less said, the less you have to fix {or render}”.

As I said, there were times when I was truthful to the point of being harmful to myself.  This was because I felt it was the right thing to do when my abuser was harping on being truthful.  The sad thing was, he was never truthful with me.

” For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

So, what are some things I shared that I wish I had kept to myself?

  • Secret bank accounts
  • Secret email accounts
  • Family communication {which I was able to have through work}
  • Plans to leave
  • Hopes and Dreams {only because this was used against me}

But, this is lying you may say.  That’s what I said.

However, I’ve come to discover that it is not lying but speaking with wisdom.

Do you guard your words?

Proverbs 13:3 says, “The one who guards his mouth preserves his life; The one who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

Often saying too much can bring us to ruin, which is the last thing God wants for us.

Do you speak with wisdom?


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