The Financial Concern







One of my greatest concerns to leaving my financial relationship was how I would afford to leave.  At that time, my husband took my paycheck and I was left with absolutely nothing.   Nothing that I said or did would change his mind.

Financial concerns are a huge issue

When I began thinking about leaving, one of my greatest concerns was how I would make ends meet to leave.

One of the best pieces of advice I was given was to set up a private bank account and have my job deposit a small percentage from each check into this account.  I did this at a time when insurance changes went into effect and the small $25 a paycheck deposited was not even noticed.

I knew it would take time to grow into an amount I could survive on or manufacture a get away, but I also knew I had to do something and it was better than having nothing.  Yet, I wished that I’d begun this backup plan in the beginning.

We can slowly build a nest egg but it takes time

If I had been proactive and put aside that small amount throughout our relationship, instead of in the last few months, I would have had $2,000.  This would have provided a bus ticket home, a down payment on a place to live or a down payment for a car.

Financial concerns are one of the greatest concerns for individuals longing to leave an abusive relationship.

When I left, I had one partial paycheck that amounted to about $100.  Thankfully, I had family to live with, who provided my food and shelter, while I worked to get back on my feet.  Rebuilding my life and finances was not easy and a situation that took time.

We are promised that God will provide for our needs

Yet, time after time God provided for me, just as he promised in Philippians 4:19, “And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.”

Whether you leave with nothing, $100, $2000 or any other amount, God knows your needs.    He will meet and provide for those needs.

What is your greatest financial concerns about leaving a bad situation?


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