Lessons from King David: Friendship with Jonathan

Jonathan and David were the best of friends.

Jonathan was loyal to his friend, David

We are not told exactly how they met, but probably some time when David came to play the harp for a troubled King Saul.

We first meet Jonathan in camp with his father, King Saul. {1 Samuel 13} From this we learn that Jonathan is a warrior.

“By the time David had finished reporting to Saul, Jonathan was deeply impressed with David—an immediate bond was forged between them. He became totally committed to David.” {1 Samuel 18:1}

This is following the narrative of David and Goliath as the shepherd boy killed the giant.

“From that point on he would be David’s number-one advocate and friend.” {1 Samuel 18:1}

Jonathan was David’s number one advocate or cheerleader or supporter and friend. Even

Jonathan learned of Saul’s true intentions for David

when he was going against his own father, he was still there for David.

“Jonathan, out of his deep love for David, made a covenant with him. He formalized it with solemn gifts: his own royal robe and weapons—armor, sword, bow, and belt.” {1 Samuel 18:2-3}

Jonathan gave David gifts that meant a lot to him. He made an agreement or promise with David of his support, friendship and love.

The two become brothers-in-law when David married Jonathan’s sister, Michal. But, it is clear they already love one another as brothers.

Later, Saul decides that he wants to kill David. He orders David killed, but Jonathan talks him out of his desire to kill the young man. {1 Samuel 19}

Jonathan sent David a concealed message

David escapes with Michal’s help, but later goes to Jonathan for help.

Jonathan is eager to help his friend. Jonathan said, “Tell me what you have in mind. I’ll do anything for you.” {1 Samuel 20:4}

The two men come up with a plan and when King Saul becomes angry that David has not appeared they both realize that the king wants David dead.
{1 Samuel 20:5-34}

The next morning, Jonathan shoots three arrows to warn David. {1 Samuel 35-41}

Jonathan then bowed before David, recognizing him as the next King

The two men bid one another goodbye. Jonathan said, “Go in peace! The two of us have vowed friendship in God’s name, saying, ‘God will be the bond between me and you, and between my children and your children forever!’” {1 Samuel 20:42}

The two men vow their friendship in the name of God and establish a bond for all generations to come in God’s name.

David and Jonathan would only meet one more time. David is living in Horesh and has caught wind of Saul’s plan to kill him once again.

Jonathan comes down to visit him. Jonathan said “Don’t despair. My father, Saul, can’t lay a hand on you. You will be Israel’s king and I’ll be right at your side to help. And my father knows it.” Then the two of them made a covenant before God.” {1 Samuel 23:17-18}

Jonathan and David

Jonathan recognizes that David will be the king of Israel. He even vows to help him.

Before they part, the two men make a covenant before God.

Jonathan would die with his father and brothers in the battle of Mount Gilboa {1 Samuel 31}.

But, even in death, David will honor their friendship. David cares for Jonathan’s son, Mephibosheth. {2 Samuel 9}

David and Jonathan are an example of what a true friendship looks like. They were willing to risk their lives for one another. However, there friendship was founded and based in their love for the Lord.

Are your friendships based in such love and dedication and faith as David and Jonathan?

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