Why are you staying?
When I was in my abusive relationship, I often had people ask why are you staying?
At first, the answer was “because he loves me”. But his actions did not show he loved me.
Then it was, “because I love him”, but I was miserable in this relationship and everyone could see it in my eyes.
Next came, “because I don’t know where to go”, but I could have gone home. I was scared of what they would think, how to leave and living without this man.
Later, it became “because I don’t have the money”. This was a genuine concern, but on more than one occasion I had friends offer me refuge while I got back on my feet. However, their conditions were absolutely no contact with my abuser.
Finally, it became, “I don’t know. Why am I staying?” This was the hardest answer because it meant being honest with myself and deep introspection and soul searching.
Proverbs 21:9 says, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”
When your emotions are in constant turmoil and you feel as if your life is a never ending roller coaster, then it is time to start asking some serious questions and digging deep. This is neither easy or fun, but essential if we hope for a change.
If you are in an abusive relationship, why are you staying?