Praying for others

Recently, I had a very strong desire to pray for a loved one. I knew of some difficult times this individual was going through, but not the exact circumstances in that moment.  I may never know, but God knows.  The Lord used me as a vessel to pray and intercede for this loved one when he may not have been […]

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A Roadmap for the New Year

    Often it is difficult to see over our present horizon.  But, we have just embarked on a new year and with it arrive new hopes and new goals. Even if the world seems dark at the moment, we hope that by the end of this year, it will not feel quite so desolate. I recently heard Denzel Washington […]

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10 Scriptures for the Hurting Heart This Christmas

  The holidays can be a very difficult time when we are hurting. We may think back to a year or two ago when life was easier or our situation was different. When we are hurting, we long to feel as if it’s the “most wonderful time of the year”. But not matter how much we try, we cannot pull […]

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Pouring Out My Pain

    Growing up, I had a brown bear that stayed with me all the time.  I can’t tell you how many countless times, I hugged him tight, while tears ran down my face.  He brought me great comfort and strength over the decades I had him. There are times when we all need someone to just hold us while […]

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Disguising the Pain

  When the pain grows too intense, I began to notice the desire to eat or munch on treats, even if I am not hungry. When we hurt it is only natural to gravitate towards something to relieve the pain. However,  the emotional eating or shopping spree, only temporarily relieves the pain.  In the long run, it is still there, […]

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Salt in the Wound

  There are individuals that I love dearly, but often spending time together is the same as pouring salt in the wound. My heart is reminded of all that I do not have and long for and the pain wells up inside, screaming to be released. I find myself pouring my heart out to the Lord, knowing that I cannot […]

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Pain Behind the Smile

  There are times when I put on a bright smile, but inside my heart is breaking. This has happened more times than I can name through a variety of situations. When others ask how we are it is so easy to say “fine” without truly answering. However, we all need that one or two close friends that we can […]

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Praying for Our Enemies

I previously shared why we should forgive those that hurt us.  But God calls us to go even a step farther and pray for our enemies. Again, this is easier said than done. I have had several situations in which I was deeply betrayed by others I trusted and loved.  This hurt deeply.  But, I chose to forgive the and […]

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Clearing the Air with our loved ones

After two decades of struggling and bad decisions, healing and transforming my life has taken almost a decade.  I’m far from perfect and still have many areas in which I am continuing to work and improve. However, it has only been recently that conversation has began to open up between my loved ones and myself about what happened then. For […]

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We often Lash Out at Those We Love Most

When we are hurting the person we often lash out to the most is those that are closest to us. With those people, we feel free to be ourselves and show our hurt. But, it is often easy to unintentionally hurt that person in the process of our own pain. Sometimes we do not even see the pain we are […]

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Grieving for What We Don’t Have

I have always longed to have children of my own, but that has never happened.  To say that I never hurt over this loss would be an omission.  There are times when my heart breaks over this unreceived blessing. There are some hurts that are so deep and ingrained that it is difficult for other people who have that blessing […]

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When We Blame Others

Recently I had a conversation with a loved one.  A former boyfriend had recently died due to a short illness. We began to discuss the decisions this individual made and that she was better off without him.  Even before they broke up, he was making bad choices and doing things that were harmful to both himself and others.  This was […]

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Lessons When Faced with the Past

Recently, I attended a conference and was confronted with my past. No, this was not one of my abusers, however it was a reminder of a difficult and unhappy time in my life. Yet, in a very strange way I felt as if I were: Liberated from that situation Had learned the lessons I was meant to learn in that […]

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When We Should Keep Secrets

I grew up where we speak only truth.  If we told a lie, we were reprimanded and told how important it was to tell the truth.  This is still a life lesson I strive to live by. However, when I was in the abusive relationship, I was often accused of lying, even when I wasn’t. There were times when I […]

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The Weak Break the Strong

I recently heard the phrase the weak break the strong and realized just how true the statement is. While often the abuser appears to be the one that is strong, that person is the one who is weak. That person takes their insecurities, uncertainties, doubts, lack of validation and any former abuse out on the person they are abusing. This […]

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When You Are Angry At God

Last week, we discussed being alone and I shared to turn to God during that time. However, what happens when you are angry at God? If you’ve never been angry at God then bless you. However, at some point, something has happened in which you have probably been angry at God. In the Bible, Job was angry with God when […]

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When You Feel All Alone

There have been many times when I have felt all alone.  During this time depression set in and I could not seem to shake it. This was greatest when I was in my abusive relationship, but that is far from the only time I’ve felt that way.  However, that is where I’m going to focus at the moment. As I […]

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When you are cut off from all you know

While I was in my abusive relationship, I was cut off from my family and friends. This happened so slowly, that I did not even realize what was happening at first. So, how is a person cut off from family and friends? Refusing to allow any contact Cutting off phone contact Cutting off letters {either through snail mail or e-mail} […]

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The Eclipse in Our Lives

The solar eclipse will cover the area where I live later today and with it, will have gradual darkness, followed by two and a half minutes of total blackout, then the light will reappear and gradually grow brighter. This reminded me that there are similar times in our life, when our situation and world gradually grows darkness and then we […]

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9 Ways to Make It On Our Own

  I often wondered how I would make it on my own, especially after I left that difficult situation. I was blessed in that I had a family to lean on and live with for several years while I rebuilt my life. I have a friend who worked three jobs when she left her husband to make ends meet for […]

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