Breaking the Bonds
Breaking the bonds in an abusive relationship is not easy. Even once I was free from my abuser, I continued to long to stay bound to my abuser. He did everything he could to maintain contact and to continue to manipulate me once I left.
Even once I broke off all communication, I still longed for him.
I began to ask myself why. I had to ask the hard questions and seek out the answers to
These were questions such as why did I love him, what did this relationship do for me, why was I so drawn to him, why did I allow him to have such a hold on my life and other similar questions.
In counseling other abused women, I have seen the same struggle to break those chains, even once the women had left their abuser.
Ephesians 6:12 tells us “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.”
Satan wants to keep us in this vicious circle of darkness, but God wants us to live in the light. The battle for good and evil wars with in us.
We long for the peace and sanctity of a life free from our abuser, but the devil wants to keep us in the chains of bond. Breaking free was not easy and I could not do it on my own.
Finding the answers meant really digging deep to discover the answers. Only through prayer, counseling, a supportive network, and a lot of hard work was I able to break the chains that bound me.
How did you break the chains of your bond?
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